The Upworthy video below, with model Jacky O’Shaughnessy, reminds me of my second post-divorce boyfriend who said things like, ” If you wear those shoes, people will think you’re an idiot.” When someone gave me a compliment, he said,” Don”t tell her that; she’ll get a big head.” What’s scary is he was way better than my first post-divorce boyfriend. But that’s another horror story.
Warning: This video contains a beautiful woman in her underwear.
Thankfully I don’t waste time hanging out with negative people anymore, though I have caught myself letting them rent space in my head from time to time. I catch them quicker now, shooing them away like a fly that slipped through the door when I wasn’t looking.
Intellectually I know I’m not supposed to criticize my body. I’m thankful for my body. I’m aware that I don’t need to look like a 24 year old model, or even a 64 year old model. I know that the average size of a woman in America is size 14. I know that most people don’t look like people we see in magazines, and that even people in magazines don’t really look like they appear in magazines. But sometimes I forget what I know and need reminders.
Note to self:
Love your body.
Love your soul.
Love who you are.
Be who you are.
Say what you need.
Say what you like.
I like people who lift me up, like I lift them up. I like people who make me laugh. I like my cheekbones. I like my voice. And I finally like my hair.
What’s something you like about yourself?