Shifting Focus

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Something strange is happening to me, in me, for me. I think it’s okay, but it makes me wonder. The precipitating event is relocating to the house I inherited from my parents so repairs can be done on the house I’ve been living in for the past 30 years. It’s a good thing in that I’ll be getting a totally new bathroom and  a new roof, and I get to finish going through all the stuff that once belonged to my parents and get this house ready to sell. I’m making a lot of progress by living here rather than driving two hours round trip once a week to work on it.

It’s strange to not be in my city where all my usual activities are. We drove the hour to church  and back again on Sunday and it’s not something we want to do every week. I’m going to miss a couple of my favorite annual events because it’s just not worth the extra time, energy, and pet care issues.  On one hand, I feel out very out of touch with the world. On the other hand, I’m getting more in touch with my family history and my grief in this house I lived in during most of my adolescence.

I’m not lonely because  I’m an introvert by nature. I don’t mind being alone most of the day with the dogs working on the house. I kinda like it. This makes me wonder if I’m  going to become a recluse.  But I have a choice about that. I see my husband every night and on his days off. We are going to explore local churches. Last week, I visited a friend who lives 30 minutes north. I’m planning a  trip to see my son and grand kids later this month for a short visit. So, I’m not a recluse.

Maybe this is just a season for me to withdraw a bit, to hunker down and continue the process of grieving the loss of my parents as I sort through photos, books, clothes, more photos, papers….. And I’m getting a lot done! I believe there will come a time when I’ll be more active in the world again.

 

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10 SIMPLE WAYS TO SAY NO AND BE NICE.

Practicing my No’s: Let me think about that. I need to think about that. I’m not sure about that, but I’ll give it some thought. I’m not comfortable with that. I’ll think about it.

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1. LET ME THINK ABOUT THAT.

2. HERE’S WHAT WILL WORK FOR ME.

3. CAN I GET BACK TO YOU.

4. THAT DOESN’T WORK FOR ME.

5. I APPRECIATE YOUR ASKING BUT I CAN’T.

6. I KNOW THIS IS IMPORTANT BUT I CAN’T.

7. THANKS BUT THIS ISN’T GOING WORK.

8. THAT ISN’T DOABLE FOR ME RIGHT NOW.

9. OH, I WISH I COULD!

10. I CAN HELP YOU FIND A SOLUTION.

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In order to love…

This one is a real struggle for me when I think about what I call “the rebound from hell.” I suppose I’m still forgiving myself for this. How did that mistake make me who I am? Without that mistake, perhaps I would not value what I have today as much. It made me more compassionate for people who stay in unhealthy relationships. It makes me more thankful for the infinitely healthier relationship I have now. It helps me work on accepting the past and ultimately, forgiveness. I wrap my arms around that confused, hurting woman I was 16 years ago, knowing that God forgives me. Thank you, dear Natalie, for the opportunity to process this a little further…..

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**Photo taken in her yard by Natalie; text added by Natalie

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One-Liner Wednesday: Treat Yourself

Anything is Possible!

     “Treat yourself like someone you love.” Adam Roa

This quote comes about three minutes into Adam’s poem in the video below.

(Stuff I had to learn before I would be ready for Mr. Right. I still need reminding.)

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Valuing Our Time, Energy, and Life

 

time management quote by Thoreau

I’m paying more attention to how I use my time these days. Sometimes that means saying no to things that might be fun for some people, but not really my cup of tea. I’ve scheduled time to write on Friday mornings and work on de-cluttering most Tuesdays. These are things that can easily get crowded out. When I don’t hold firm, my writing, art, and de-cluttering projects tend to get pushed out into the zone of  no end in sight leading to despair and frustration.

It’s important to consider the value of our time and energy with each potential activity and how that activity will affect our life force. Will it drain us or inspire us? It’s okay to say no to things that take away too much life. After many years of service, I now choose not to add unnecessary stress to my life. Today, I choose activities that are meaningful to me.

The  volunteer work I do with children and community art projects inspires me. Singing at church energizes me. Working in the yard feels good when I don’t over do it. Swimming in the ocean gives me joy. It’s okay to do things that give us joy.

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What gives you joy?

What energizes you?

What inspires you?

Make time for the things that add life to your life!

 

Highly Sensitive

Coming to understand the value of sensitivity.

Anything is Possible!

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I’ve been writing about my mother lately (maybe for a Chicken Soup story) and found this post by Trini Lind about highly sensitive people which made me realize that my mother was a HSP, too! It helps me appreciate her more, even though she’s no longer in this world.

“Overly sensitive,” was the phrase back when I was a kid. I fought against my sensitivity my whole life. I didn’t’ want to be like my mother who had nervous breakdowns and migraines. I loved my mother, but I wanted to be strong like my father. Since I couldn’t fix my mom, I watched Star Trek and developed a huge crush on Mr. Spock. Calm, cool, logical Spock. Someone had to stay calm. So I suppressed. I did well in school, drew pictures, and made up stories in my head. And I watched a lot of Star Trek.

Somehow, I managed…

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Should I Get an Armageddon Bucket?

Worry. My old hand-wringing companion. I try to comfort her and tell her stories about all the times we worried for nothing. Excessive worry isn’t good for us. So, I aim for healthy optimism.

But them my friend showed me her armageddon bucket with a toilet seat she bought on line with supplies for five people for x number of days, and worry says, “Yes! You need to order one of those!”

I have not ordered it yet. Here are some reasons why:

  1. Hope.
  2. Procrastination.
  3. I’m trying to de-clutter, so where would I put it?
  4. I’m a peacenik. Would a peacenik have an armageddon bucket?

 

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