How to Heal a Broken Heart

Anything is Possible!

How to heal from a broken heart

This is exactly what I learned to do after my divorce. It took time. There was all that grief to work through, a codependent relapse or two, and a great deal of questioning.

But in time, I found me again. I put my love into the constants that had always been there for me: God, dogs, nature, painting, writing, singing, swimming, and family. I explored new interests like drumming, improvisational dance, and kayaking. I bought myself flowers and encouraging cards. Slowly but surely, I healed. In some ways, the healing was like coming home. In other ways, it was like a mid-life adolescence but with a little more wisdom and growing self-love.

What are the constants in your life that can support you through hard times?

What else can help heal a broken heart?

back cover painting (2) My back cover painting for Trust the Timing

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Poetry: I am.

Poetry: I am.

In this poem, Linda J. Wolff clarifies why I feel so comfortable being by myself and perhaps what it means to be an introvert. Yet I don’t want to be alone ALL the time. I wish I could feel more free to be myself when I’m with others. I want to be kind, but I don’t want to worry so much what other people think. This seems to have been been my dilemma for most of my life. I think I’m getting better at being myself around other people. No, I know I’m getting better at being myself. But I will always love to be home with just my dogs, especially when I’ve been around a lot of people like this past weekend.

Urban Poetry

…Being comfortable in your own skin is exhilarating, it shines from within the very core of who you are. A free verse poetry about accepting the person who you are. A digital art piece that’s easy on the eyes.

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I exist.
Not because of anyone else,
and when I am with no one but myself.
There’s magic in just being.
Magic in just knowing,
I can be what I want to be.
It’ not about being something
for someone else or
what you want to see in me.
I am me; it is who I am.

It was never about you.

©Linda J. Wolff 2017

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Confidence

Confidence

Or, will I like them?

Of course we want people to like us. We are designed for community. But everyone is not going to like us. And everyone is not going to be good for us.

I’m thankful for my friends, for their love and support, for being able to share tears and laughter. But I know I can be okay alone, because we are never really alone. There’s always God, or whatever you want to call that divine power who loves us no matter what. And there are dogs, those divinely created experts in unconditional love.

Then there are cats. Cats have their own special kind of confidence. Some of them are experts.

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The rules for One-liner Wednesday, which I sometimes follow are:

1. Make it one sentence.

2. Try to make it either funny or inspirational.

3. Use our unique tag #1linerWeds.

4. Add our very cool badge to your post for extra exposure!

5. Have fun!

25 Weird, Unusual, or Interesting Facts About Me

Being inspired by https://thefalliblequeen.wordpress.com/2017/03/09/25-facts/ and remembering how much I enjoyed making “I’m Special” collages when I worked with children of alcoholics and addicts, I decided to try something like this:

  1. I was born in Washington DC and remember my first address: 514 Oglethorpe Street.
  2. I went to kindergarten in Argentia, Newfoundland where my dad was stationed in the Marine Corps during the height of the “cold war.”
  3. In fifth grade, I went to three different schools and lived in four different states when my dad was in Vietnam.
  4. My mother had electro-shock therapy  when I was 10.
  5. My first crush was on Mr. Spock in the original Star Trek series.
  6. I learned to sing listening to The Sound of Music and, later, Karen Carpenter.
  7. I have never lived in a home with an automatic dishwasher.
  8. I’m more afraid of cockroaches than I am snakes, but if I find a spider or moth in the house, I catch it in a jar and put it outside.
  9. I saw the first Star Wars movie 10 times in the movie theater in the late 70s.
  10. I’ve been scuba diving with a school of barracuda.
  11. I like anchovies, but have not had them in a long time.
  12. I have not eaten red meat (beef or pork) for at least 40 years. And I don’t miss it.
  13. I used have my own horse. When I first bought her, I didn’t have a saddle, so I rode bareback. I fell off more than once.
  14. I’m an open-minded Christian who respects and values other religions. (And I’m not the only one.)
  15. I worked as a substance abuse/addictions counselor in a non-profit agency for over 30 years.
  16. I did some private practice work as a certified hypnotherapist and also studied Reiki.
  17. My high school sweetheart found me again after 39 years of no contact, when the time was perfect, and we got married in 2012.(I’m writing a book about it.)
  18. I wanted a partner who loved dogs. My new husband (the high school sweetheart) had 3 dogs when he found me again, and I had two, so we had 5 dogs in our two bedroom house, which thankfully has a big back yard.)
  19. I’m a natural artist and good singer, but I have a real hard time with mechanical things, doing my own taxes, and learning to tie special knots.
  20.  I love to read and write, but I’m a slow reader. In school, I was almost always the last one done on tests.
  21. My imagination is beyond imagination. (Maybe that’s why I’m a slow reader.)
  22. I’d rather pick up trash at the beach or in a park than go to a fancy, expensive dinner where you have to figure out which fork to use.
  23. I have never used an ATM.
  24. I don’t use straws ever since I saw that video with a turtle who got a straw stuck up it’s nose.
  25. I saw angels once. Now, I paint them.
Angels Among Us

This is a mural I did on the side of a building which has since been painted over.

 

Love Me, Love My Dog

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Mary Moo

Today’s Just Jot It January prompt is, “mongrel,” provided by Geoff of TanGental.

I like the word “mutt” better than mongrel. It just sounds cuter. But I appreciate the prompt, because it gives me an excuse to write about one of my favorite things: dogs.

“Love me, love my dog,” mom used to say. She was not especially fond of dogs, but she respected that I was crazy about them. I looked up that saying to find and found out it’s an idiom meaning, if you’re going to have a relationship with me, you have to accept what I love. I would add that while you might not love dogs as much as I do, you gotta accept my love for them and how important they are to me. “Must love dogs” was always at the top of my list of characteristics I wanted in a partner. Thankfully my sweetheart fits the bill.

Mutts and mongrels are as lovable as any purebred. They are just as capable as giving the unconditional love that makes me love dogs so much. Most of the dogs loved have been mutts.

Mary Moo, in the picture above, was rescued from the pound about 15 years ago. She appears to be a cross between a beagle and a terrier. She sleeps a lot these days, but there was a time when she was pretty feisty. She did not know how to back down from other dogs and as a result, got into some skirmishes when the step dogs came along a few years ago. It helped that we walked them together as a pack and Mary learned to become submissive to keep the peace.

Here’s a sweet song I found while exploring, “Love Me, Love My Dog.” I might not have found it if Geoff hadn’t come up with the mongrel prompt. So thanks again, Goeff!

 

And thanks Dan Antion for hosting!

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Here are the rules for Just Jot It January:

1. It’s never too late to join in! Here, we run on the honour system; the “jot it” part of JusJoJan means that anything you jot down, anywhere (it doesn’t have to be a post, it can even be a grocery list) counts as a “Jot.” If it makes it to your blog that day, great! If it waits a week to get from a sticky note to your screen, no problem!

2. The prompts will be posted every day at 2am my time (GMT -5). You don’t have to follow the prompt word, but this will be where you leave your link for others to see. Make sure you link your post to the correct day’s prompt. There will be a post like this every day except Wednesday, when the prompt is simply my One-Liner Wednesday, and Saturday, when you’ll find the prompt on my usual Friday Reminder post for Stream of Consciousness Saturday (SoCS).

3. As long as your blog is on WordPress, you’ll be able to link via pingback. To execute a pingback, just copy the URL from the daily prompt post, and paste it anywhere in your post. Check to make sure your link shows up where you want it to, and go back occasionally to see other bloggers’ entries – the more you visit others, the more they’ll visit you! If you’re participating from another blogging host, just drop a link into the comment section. Note: The newest pingbacks and comments will be at the top.

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5. Write anything! Any length will do! It can even be a photo or a drawing – you’re going to title it, right? There’s your jot!

6. The prompts are here both to remind you and to inspire you to write. However, you don’t have to use the prompt word of the day. You can link any kind of jot back here. Even your shopping list. Note: If it’s 18+ content, please say so in a comment with your link.

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8. Have fun!

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The Long and Winding Road of Becoming Me

She thew away her masks and put on her soul

First, I wanted to be a veterinarian

and save the whales

Or maybe a biologist

and save the world.

But way before that,

I was an artist.

I could draw dogs and horses

All day long.

No one taught me this.

I just did it.

And people said I was a good.

I loved to write,

And make up stories in my head.

But I didn’t value those stories much.

I didn’t value my drawings and paintings

As much as I wanted to save the planet

But trigonometry hurt my brain.

So I ended up in the mind field.

Fixing me more than anyone else.

While God helped me

Help people

Save themselves.

And taught me things

I needed to learn

About saving time for me.

Along the way,

I’ve saved dogs,

I’ve saved cats,

I’ve saved trees,

And  God saved me some time.

Because the long and winding road

Never disappears.

It always lead me back to my roots

Back to the work of my soul.

 

 

I love how this song can be about anything we want to come back home to.