My last three posts have been about avoiding or coping with the toxic things of life. So, it’s about time I got back to focusing on the positive because what we focus on gets bigger!
Of course we want our coping skills to get bigger and stronger, but what most of us want even more is to attract positive people and positive situations into our lives. So how do we do that?
1. Stop worrying. Easier said than done, I know. Perhaps you’ve been in the habit of worrying about bad things, so you won’t be disappointed, and so you’ll be ready. But how many minutes or even hours have we wasted worrying about things that never happened?
“I’ve had a lot of worries in my life, most of which never happened.”
2. Identify what you want.
When I’d finally done enough work learning (the hard way) what I didn’t want in my life, I started to focus my attention on what I did want. This was most obvious in searching for my soul mate. I put in writing the qualities I wanted in a partner. I made collages about what I wanted.
I put hearts on the collages and around my home to welcome love. It took a few years, because we were both working on becoming ready, but it worked! Love found me when the time was right.
So now, I’m focusing on other things I want in my life and I’m letting God and God’s Universe conspire with my hopes and dreams to create my highest and best good. It might not be exactly what I envision, but that’s okay. I trust that it will be good, because God and the Universe have a way of doing marvelous things!
3. Imagine what it will be like, using all your senses.
I see myself spending more time in nature. I smell the rich earth. I feel the ocean breeze on my face and the sun on my arms.
I see myself spending more time creating art with words and brushes and color.
I see my children with smiles on their faces in healthy relationships. I hear their joyful laughter.
Just as I imagined the comfort and joy of being with a compatible partner, I now imagine the comfort and joy of my soul mate and I being financially able to have more freedom to do even more what feeds our souls.
I see our book being published and giving hope to many people. I feel the gratitude.
4. Get ready for good things to come!
One way I got ready was to forgive myself and others. Forgiving made room for new things, good things to come in my life. That’s another part of the story, we’ll explore later.
What do you want for you? What will it look like? What will it feel like? What will it sound like? Smell like?